How to Quit Thinking and Win Life
Do you ever feel like you want to do something and then talk yourself out of it? Maybe it’s speaking up in a meeting at work or going for that walk after work. This was happening to me constantly. My whole life really. I couldn’t do a single thing without over-analyzing it in my head. What if my idea is stupid? What if I screw up what I am trying to say? What if no one agrees with me? And on and on until the moment to speak up is past.
Over the past year I have spent a ton of time reading for self improvement and have learned some great things. As I was telling my best friend from college about all these books, she mentioned that I would probably like Mel Robbins, who is a motivational speaker. The next day, I decided to listen to her TedX talk on my way to work. It was amazing! Going into it, I wasn’t sure if I would be into a motivational speaker but I love the way she talks to the audience. She is so real and I felt like she was talking directly to me.
The biggest take away I have from listening to Mel, is “The 5 Second Rule”. This little tidbit has already changed my life in the two weeks since I have heard about it! Basically, when you are thinking about doing something, count down from 5 and then do it. How simple right?? Let me tell you, it has totally been working for me. When I catch myself thinking about all the 'What If’s’ I count down and make a decision. If you are a skeptic like I tend to be, I am sure you are doubting me. Here are the ways it has helped me in the last two weeks:
I had a decent exercise schedule, but had been THINKING about increasing it for months to help me shed some unwanted weight. Key word here is thinking. I would come home from work and think about taking a walk for an hour, when it would then be dark and the time had passed. Then I would feel guilty about not going.
The day after watching Mel and hearing about “The 5 Second Rule” I tried it on myself. Guess what? I did a yoga session after work for 30 minutes. Since then, I am now on a schedule of 4-5 days a week of yoga and 2-3 days a week walking. Before the rule I was doing 2-3 days a weeks of yoga and 1 day a week walking. After the first week of doing this I am down 2lbs!
Similar to exercise, I had been working on what I put in my body. My two biggest areas that needed attention were my drinking and my love of sweets. I just couldn’t seem to say no. I have been trying the rule and am having success I haven’t seen in a long time. I have a two drink max now and so far have been successful.
I also started tracking my food intake so I can see how much alcohol and desserts are wrecking my otherwise healthy diet. It’s really amazing how just seeing the calories makes me change my mind. I have done tracking before and it’s been helpful, I just need to make sure I don’t give up like I have in the past.
Ah procrastination, my old friend. I can remember waiting until the absolute last second to do papers and projects as a middle schooler. It’s been my habit for as long as I can remember. The more I learn about this habit, the more I realize it’s due to my fear of failing. If I wait until the last minute to do something, then I have an excuse for why it didn’t go well. Deep down, I am scared to try hard at something I feel is important and have it fail.
Now, instead of thinking about doing something and finding excuses not to get started, I am using the 5 Second Rule to get out of my head. If I work hard and it doesn’t go as planned, then I can learn from the outcome and improve. I have learned that the more I commit to action, the more progress I will make.
I definitely recommend checking out Mel’s YouTube video and her books. I just finished the book, “The 5 Second Rule” and am more convinced then ever this is my new secret weapon! Have you tried it? I would love to hear how it’s working out for you. Leave a comment or send me an email to share your experience.