10 Lessons I Learned in 2017
I have always been a believer in lifelong learning and 2017 was no different!
I made a big job change and I had a ton of personal growth.
It was quite a year for me and I want to share with you the top things I learned.
1. I had a limiting mindset
I learned through several books and articles that I held on to limiting beliefs about myself that were holding me back. I would feel confident one minute only to talk myself out of going for it the next.
Even though I felt like I was good at my job, I always had this little voice telling me that I wasn't as good as everyone else. That's not helpful if you are trying to do something beyond what you or anyone you know is doing!
To help, I started journaling and making goals for myself. Once I started to realize where I was holding myself back, I started to see other outcomes.
2. I needed to stop being a people pleaser
Ever since I was little, I have had a very strong desire for everyone to like me.
Like every. single. person. This is pretty much impossible, just so you know!
While I still am a super nice person (I hope!), I realized I needed to do things based on what I wanted and needed and not how other people may react.
Even though I am in my 30's I realized that I still held onto my parents' opinions of what I was doing very strongly. Add in my husband, friends and co-workers and I found I couldn't please EVERYONE.
So I finally decided to take some time to figure out what would make me happy. To be honest, I don't think I had every really thought about what would make just me happy. It was a little weird at first, but it's been a huge wake up experience!
3. Yoga is a Godsend!
My best friend and I started going to yoga regularly once a week in 2017 and as it got colder outside we started going several times a week. Not only has it helped me tone up, it has helped clear my mind. I am such a different person with this practice. More relaxed, less anxious, and finally able to get some clarity!
Please know I am not super flexible and I am not a hippy dippy vegan (although there's nothing wrong with that!).
That's the great thing about yoga, there is no judgement. For someone who has some serious comparison and competitive issues, it was a relief.
We actually spend a majority of our time with our eyes closed, so I can't see if I am better or worse than my classmates.
4. Meditation is not weird
After getting into yoga and hearing that basically every successful person practices meditation, I decided I needed to give it a try.
I'm not going to lie, it was pretty hard at first.
I am a naturally anxious person and shutting that off was not that easy. The app Headspace was really good and got me into a regular routine. I stopped using it after the free trial and attempted to do it on my own.
More recently I have been using guided meditation videos on YouTube which are super helpful and free.
I like to do one in the morning focused on productivity or money mindset and then one at night on abundance or gratefulness. I have never done one longer than 15 minutes, but notice a huge difference.
5. My inner voice was a bully
Through reading some books to help me get my mindset in a better place, I realized that I was constantly talking negatively to myself.
In my head I was never allowed to make a mistake.
Something I read said to consider how someone else would feel if you spoke to them the way you speak to yourself.
Let's just say I wouldn't have many friends! I am still working on this, but I have come a long way.
6. The grass isn't greener
After working for one company for over seven years, I decided to take a new job with another company. I was making more money and was supposed to be doing a higher level job. I did make more money, which I thought would make me happier.
Well, it didn't.
What I found was that the job was basically the same as what I left except without the same flexibility. If moving up in the corporate HR world was my ultimate goal, I could have made it work, but I figured out that it wasn't so I moved on.
I am not saying you shouldn't move roles, but just don't expect the new job to be perfect. There will be some positives and some negatives with the new company. Keep that in mind and you will avoid the let down.
7. Non-fiction books are cool too
Reading has always been a big part of my life, but always fiction. I hadn't ready anything else aside from school books until 2017. What I found was that there are some fantastic books out there!
For some reason I thought they would be super boring, but they were so interesting! If you want to learn from someone who has achieved what you want to achieve, chances are they have written a book about their journey!
The best part? There is the magical invention called the library that I recently rediscovered after I realized I was spending way too much money on Amazon :-)
Check out this post for more on what I read.
8. I need to focus on my health
As much as I wanted to reach my goals of getting my business off the ground, while still working full time, I realized I needed to make sure I wasn't ignoring my health. I had done it before when I was trying to get promoted and I didnt want to be there again!
2017 was working on eating better and making sure I was exercising. There were some days that I didn't want to do it, but I kept reminding myself why it was so important!
Need some inspiration?
Check out this 30 day plank challenge to get you started!
9. I have a lot to be grateful for
I know, it's cheesy. I'm sorry, but I do.
I think it's great to constantly remind ourselves what we have and be thankful for it. I have a great husband, an awesome daughter and family and friends I love.
2017 was a tough one career wise, but it lead me to where I am now and I am pretty stoked about it!
Read this article on why I finally decided to go for it!
10. I learned I can be confident
Alright, truth be told this was late 2017 but I did eventually get there! I was able to quit the doubt game and take some action.
Every decision I made wasn't stellar but it led me to new decisions and kept me from becoming stagnant.
Sure, staying in your job may help you avoid avoid an uncomfortable situation but those situations are often the ones that lead to growth.
Sometimes we need a bit of help to get us going on our goals. If you want to have a quick call to talk about how I may be able to help with your job search or career goals, let me know!